Monday, September 22, 2008

Relationships

I was listening to the radio this morning and they were talking about a woman that had an issue with her boyfriend looking at X-rated pictures. I fail to understand that issue. If he loves you then what do you care who or what he looks at? If he doesn't love you, why are you waiting your time? Don't you have better things to do with your life? I think that stems from my whole attitude on dating and even just friendship. I'm not quick love or even like people. In fact, I'm way more inclined to hate than love (which I realize is probably unhealthy but it is the way I am and I doubt I'm changing).

Most, except for a VERY select few, start firmly in the dislike catagory for me. A popular refrain in our house is "I hate people" and that is generally true. With some minor effort people can be moved from "active dislike" to "tolerate". It requires amazing feats (and a smart mouth never hurts since I can fully appreciate sarcasm) to be moved to the "actively likes" catagory. And they need to be quick because I don't have the time or energy for repeat exposures. A handful of chances is all you really get.

As I've gotten older, I have even less time for non-productive relationships. When I was a teenager, I had so many TERRIBLE friends. Not only were they not good friends, they weren't even good people. I got into more trouble in the few months I was friends with them than I did at ANY other point in my life. Fortunately, I outgrew that need to be around people who weren't good for me and I have been much more selective about the people that I allow to move into the "friend" catagory and my life is so much better for it.

5 comments:

makeup_girl said...

Remind me never to make you mad - I don't want to be in the "hate" category!

I do agree with you - I could care less what Brady looks at. He on the other hand is a little wierded out by my intrests in the X-rated. However, we don't get mad at each other for what we look at. Seriously. How ridiculous is that!

Looseyfur said...

Here, here, sister.

Looseyfur said...

http://www.zazzle.com/anti_people_sticker-217940393788760437

Quigs78 said...

Well, Freak, if you would stop comparing every new person you meet to me - the perfect friend - then maybe you'd like more people.

But when you put them next to me, on my pedestal and all, of course you won't like them.

Common sense.

The Fearless Freak said...

Loosey, that is an awesome sticker!


Quigs, you are so right. It really is trying to have perfect friends :)