Tuesday, April 29, 2008

Grouches and Gripes

I decided when I started this blog that it was going to be generally positive but it seems lately to have fallen off course. This is another post along those same lines. Maybe it will get better, maybe it won't but that is the way it is.

First issue, the SAGA continues. J's mom asked me yesterday morning if he was ok (because she is a super nice person) after the issue on Friday. I told her that he was fine and she went about trying to explain J's behavior. She said that he wants to be friends with C but not play with him all the time. That sounds fine because as an adult, I have yet to find anyone that I want to spend that much time with, without a break. But then she said that he said that he doesn't want to be play with C at school when there are other kids around but wouldn't mind playing with him at their house. I know I probably completely over reacted but that comment felt like "well, he is a good enough friend when no one else is around, but if anyone cooler is there, then he is too good to play with C" Probably not what she meant but the whole thing left me feeling icky. I stand by my ban on playing with him right now.

Next up, scouting. They are signing new Cub Scouts up for next year. They sent home all this paper work, flyers for things, etc. C is DESPERATE to join but I have issues with the politics of the BSA and I'm not sure I can support an organization with the internal policies that they have. Dh was a scout and his dad a leader so they think it is great. My brother was a scout and my mom a leader and they think it is fab. I'm not sure how I feel about it. :( Plus, J wants to join which means more opportunity for him to push C around :( :( I'll probably let him go to the picnic and open house and we'l see if I can get past my issues. The other problem I have, I hate pretty much everything that Boy Scouts do. Hiking is terrible, camping is worse and those tow are huge parts of scouting. Normally, I would say that dh would have to do those things with him, but with his schedule, he isn't around for those types of things very often. We'll have to see after he goes to the open house Thursday night (I have a district PTA meeting that night so he will probably go with DH).

Finally, reunions. My high school reunion is coming up in a few weeks. I hated the people that I went to school with when I went to school with them. I still hated them at my 5 year reunion 5 years ago, although less since I only had to spend a couple of hours with them, instead of 4 years. Enter the 10 year reunion. I wasn't going to go and a friend (the only one from my grade) sort of pushed me into it. I got the invitation and RSVPed yes because of her. We talked about getting together with the few people that we didn't hate and going together and stuff. When I emailed her the other day to see if she had talked to those people (she is closer to them than I am) and see about ride arrangements, she said she hadn't talked to them and her and her boyfriend were going. Apparently, they intend to go alone and visit her parents and make a day of the whole thing, leaving me to drive down by myself. Honestly, it is a long way to go, by myself (dh has to work), to see people I couldn't give 2 craps about. I'm thinking about not going after all. I'm waiting to hear back from the one person I emailed before I decide for sure. Since she has someone to go with, I don't think I'll regret not going. The only reason I might is if the one or two people that I was friendly with decide to show up (unlikely since they hated our school more than I did) and I'm not there to see them. That would be disappointing, but not the end of the world. I still have a couple of weeks to figure out what I'm going to do so we shall see.


Misc said...

Um, yeah, the way J's mom put it it sounds like J only wants to be a part-time friend to C, like he's embarrassed to be seen with him at school or something? Which is unacceptable. I say let C find some true friends (Evan is dying to get together with him and play).

Evan would like to do Boy Scouts, but I just don't think we have the time. He has karate 2 days a week, Flynn another 2 and Fridays are our only free day during the week. I also like to have us home no later than 5:30 so we can keep to our regular dinner/play/bath/book/bed routine as much as possible. Frank was a scout, so we'll see.

I have yet to attend a h.s. reunion. I had my excuses: 5 year I was in Charleston doing summer stock theatre and had a performance that night, 10 year I'd just gotten married, 15 year was held on my wedding anniversary & we'd just gotten home from vacation, and the 20th was held on a Friday night at a football game and I really had no burning desire to go hang out with people from my class. My best friend from school lives in northern IL and there was no way she'd make it down, so I didn't go. The people in charge of planning our reunions said the 25th (in 4 years) would be great. I'm not holding my breath. I wouldn't waste any sleep over not going, if I were you.

Jenna said...

I actually really enjoyed my hs reunion...I talked to people I didn't necessarily hang out with. People are very different from hs. I actually wished I lived near someone that I re-met at the reunion so we could be friends.

Looseyfur said...

Completely unrelated, but can I just say that I love the photo of Chris and Jake sitting in the helmet chair at the stadium. And it looks like they're best buds in the group shot too!